My friends boyfriend never wants to have children. That’s a personal choice for him, but the sad thing is, my friend really wants to have children. The weird thing is that he would completely brainwash her. When I asked her about what it’s like with her wanting children and him not wanting children, she went off on a very seemingly-rehearsed speech about how the world is overpopulated and that people should stop having children since there’s not enough food/space whatever to maintain people continuing to have babies.
I went through phases where I thought I would have kids and then I thought I wouldn’t. At the time I was dating this guy in particular–I was pretty apathetic. If the person I ended up with wanted kids, great, if he did not, that was great too. We had this conversation and he said he never wanted kids, which was fine. As time went on, he mentioned that he would want one kid. I was surprised at this change and wasn’t a huge fan of just ONE. I would want none or at least two–I grew up with siblings and would not want to deprive my child of that. I said I thought he didn’t want to have kids. He said “I don’t” to which I was really confused. I asked why he doesn’t want kids, but he would have just one and his response was “so I have someone to take care of me when I’m older.”
This spurred into a whole conversation–is that the ONLY reason you want to have a child? Yes. The ONLY reason–just so you have someone to take care of you? He questioned who would take care of him if he didn’t have a kid who was obligated–he would get old a senile and end up in an old folks home–but if he had one kid that one child would be responsible to take care of him and he wouldn’t have to worry about it. There is a plethora of things wrong with this logic, but a huge one is how incredibly stupid and selfish it is. He has no intention of raising kids, or doing any of the thing it takes to raise a child–he was just thinking 60 years ahead and not wanting to deal with life.