According to his profile, we had a lot in common and I was really excited for this date. He was exactly what I expected and we definitely had a spark during the dinner. He talked about a break up he went through (which was totally fine).
Break-ups are tough, I had gone through what sounded like a similar break-up, and I told him that. He asked how long ago it was and I said “oh, don’t worry, that was over 2 years ago, it’s not like I’m on the rebound or anything.” Then I asked him when he went through this break up he was referring to and he said “2 weeks ago.”
He said he signed up for online dating a week ago. So–he was in a serious relationship, describing a serious and heart breaking experience and this happened two weeks ago?! I was so confused at how he could be ok with this since it usually takes more than a week to get over a serious break up.
I liked him so much I decided to go on a second date with him (ex girlfriend came up again). This time he said he is not looking for anything serious–just wanted to date around again, and probably should have taken more time post-break up to recover. (duh). I SHOULD have realized this after the first date, but I was dumb and advice from others said if he made the conscious decision to online date he MUST be ready. Not the case.